A few months ago maybe two three months ago, my husband was leaving for work an hour early for three weeks. Every single day he would just leave and not say where he goes. I was weirded out a bit but i didnt ask him why he was leaving early everyday. Two weeks passed and on the third week i asked him where he was going and rudely he told me he was going to church and asked me why i was asking him. Then i asked him which church he was going to and told me a church thats on the other side of the city thats not even in the way of his work. I told him i find it weird that he was going there every single day and on top of that he was going to such a distant one. He just asked me whats so weird about it and no matter how much i explained myself about why i find it weird he didnt get me or maybe he didnt want to get me.
Even when we started dating he told me how religious he is but over time i noticed that hes not following religion so much and what it preaches. Ive caught him in lies and he denies everything even tho i have proof, hes not the good person he claims to be etc etc.
Today he left for work early again and told me im gonna go to church first. I said okay and he left.
I dont know why i have an uneasy feeling about this. Even if i ask him about this i know he wont tell me the truth. Would you be weirded out about this or would you find it normal. I dont know what to think of this. I dont know if something more is going on and going to church is an excuse.
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Listen to your gut. Even the most religious men don’t go to church that much.
I would be wondering where he is really going, I highly doubt he is going to church every morning.
Next time, get ready for church and tell him that you’re excited to accompany him to his church service.
>Ive caught him in lies and he denies everything even tho i have proof, hes not the good person he claims to be etc etc.
Whether or not he attends church is irrelevant. You don’t fundamentally like this man, and whether or not he’s a ‘saint’ in the eyes of whatever God you pick in the moment is unimportant.
He’s a liar by your own words, and you say verbatim that he’s “not a good person”
Why are you in a relationship with him?
If my husband didn’t tell me for TWO WEEKS why he was leaving the house early, I’d honestly question my entire relationship, and if he got stroppy with me for asking I would not respond well to that. That’s information to be volunteered.
If he wants to go church, he can go to any near by or a church that is in his way. Why would you go out of the way to go church? I don’t think he is telling you the truth.
He’s not going to church. You’ve caught him in lies before, so you know you can’t trust him. And the fact that he’s so rude when you ask him about it is especially damning.
I’m sorry, but he’s cheating on you.
Would I find it normal? Hell no.
As someone who grew up in a religious household, church is as much about the culture and community as it is about the teachings. So on one hand, yeah, people might favour a church that’s a bit out of their way. But to be so cagey about it to your own partner and doing it at odd times is weird.
Something doesn’t sound right and it could be many things. Sure, he could actually be going to church, but the teachings are unsafe or he could be getting into something weird. Or, more likely, he’s just lying about something.
Show up to the church when he says he’s going
Next time he says he’s leaving early to go to church before work, say you’ll go with him and then drop him off at work. Talk to the people at the church. I’d be willing to bet they either won’t have a clue who he is because he has never been there before or if they do know him won’t know that he’s married.
The other day, my housemate told me she wouldn’t be eating breakfast with me like usual because she was going to the gym. If she can do that, why couldn’t your husband voluntarily tell you where he was going? Why did it take you 2 weeks before even asking where he was going and what he was doing?
He’s lying to you (as he’s done before) and you know it, deep down.
sounds like “church” is either cheating, drugs, or gambling.
He’s either cheating or part of a cult. Why wouldn’t he have invited you to go?! If I decided to pick up a religion I would definitely have a conversation with my husband first.
Now girl you know damn well this man is Bull shitting you …