Hello I (38f) am wondering about something. We all know that a lot goes into attraction besides just looks and that sometimes it needs to build over time as you spend time with someone and get to know them.
So I’m curious about something for those of you who are currently in a relationship who didn’t meet your partner on a dating app. If you and your partner had never met and were complete strangers and you saw them on a dating app, would you have “swiped right” on them? I’m sure it would depend on a number of factors such as what they wrote in their bio and other stuff besides just the way they look but if we’re just going off of the way they look knowing little/nothing else about them. Just curious.
Part of the reason I’m asking is because I’m getting back into dating with the intention of having a serious long term relationship and I wonder how many people I have “swiped left” on who could have been great for me or even the love of my life just because their pictures didn’t appeal to me enough.
TL;DR: would you have swiped right on your current partner if you had never met them and saw them on a dating app?
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I would be highly offended if I found out my partner wouldn’t have swiped right on me. I don’t understand how anybody can be with somebody without being physically attracted to their partner. Yes, there’s way more to attraction than just looks, but being physically attracted to your partner matters. We call those who we don’t want to sleep with but enjoy being around friends.
Yes. 100% Yes.
Can’t imagine how he could have messed up a profile badly enough that I wouldn’t have. He’d have to be trying to make himself unappealing.
For me, yes! (I met my current partner in the wild). Base level physical attraction is important to me personally, but I know some of my friends who were not immediately attracted to their partners and that have grown that attraction over time from getting to know them. To each their own I’d say.
Yes 115%. She is gorgeous
Yeah. But I might have though he was sus because I bet his profile would have been like, six words. He’s a man of few words to begin with, and he hates writing.
Good question.
I think my wife wouldn’t “swipe right” me – she is a stunningly beautiful woman, and I was just one of average-looking guys.
I definitely would, hahah.