So… I had my 8 year old daughter for the weekend and planned a super fun beach/BBQ day with my daughter, mother and him. My mother has had hip replacement surgery and this was her first time outta the house since. While swimming around and having fun in the water, my bf kisses me and my daughter got a Lil jealous coz he was taking my attention away from her. She was pretending to play fight him and gave him a tiny Lil punch to the arm while horsing around. I mean, she’s 8!!!!! He started fucking tripping out hard in front of everybody. When I asked him what was wrong, he swung a punch dead to my arm. He said, “this” as he punched me. Wtf. He’s a self proclaimed kickboxer… never seen him practice the sport in 3 years but wtv. He got sooooo pissed at my daughter… and I was so pissed at him. Wtf that hurt asf! I got out the water with my daughter and he followed. My daughter immediately apologized and he said “it’s ok, dont do that again”. I was like “yeah, same” he started getting mad all by himself again, saying the BBQ is canceled. He refuses to spend another minute at the beach with an 8 year old that acts like a spoiled brat 24/7 … At this point he is yelling and catching everybody’s attention. He called my daughter a “bitch” twice and packed all our stuff and canceled our day. He was out only way home so we followed suit – I live way too far from the beach to walk with both my mother and daughter. We got home. He immediately went into my son’s room (who is with his father atm) and hasn’t said a single word to anyone ever since. Cold silent treatment. It’s been 2 days already. He’s living in my house for free. Never paid a dime for rent. How entitled does one legit have to be. Im genuinely growing to hate him. I have forgiven this dummy for so much shit…. but this… I can’t. I genuinely cannot stand to see his face anymore. His own family disowned him and he resents them for it but he is like this with them as well. Im not trying to take care of someone’s poorly raised son. He’s homeless if he isn’t living here but I want him gone. I fell out of love with him. Rant over
Wtf I am growing to genuinely hate my bf
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Red flags all over, NTA. Dump him!
He assaulted you, call the police. Get a protection order. Tell him your done nta
Girl dump his ass ASAP don’t let red flagged hoes near u and ur kids
His response sounds way, way over the top. It does sound like it’s time to make a plan to move him out of your home.
He hit you and verbally abused your daughter. This isn’t okay. Get him out of your house; your safety and your daughter’s well-being come first
It sounds like it’s time to ask him to leave. He needs to get his act together, find a job and his own place to live. Calling an 8 year old a “bitch” is beyond the pale. Protect your daughter and reclaim your home. He sounds like he’s bipolar.
But be careful — get a muscular friend to come over while you explain that he needs to become independent so he won’t be bothered by other people. Explain it will be better for him. This guy is explosive, so have protection around you and your family members.
DUMP THIS MAN! He doesn’t seem to have any respect for you or your child and staying with him could cause issues with you and your daughter’s relationship if he continues to treat you and her like that. You would be 1000000% in the right to leave him.
NTA.
Obviously, He has never been around children.
In my opinion, He would be gone for his actions towards my child.
Good luck
Put his stuff out and change the locks. If he is a man he will do what he should and support himself. What kind of POS does that? And in front of a child? Why would you stick yourself with this loser? Life will be much better without him. Close that door. You can’t be available to someone better if you stay connected with that.
‘He called my daughter a bitch twice”…..He needs to go.
NTA in the slightest. Like, who TF punches their partner in front of her own kid, then calls said kid a bitch?? That’s actually unhinged, and I wouldn’t even let that dude in my house again. You’re not running a shelter for grown man-children- him being homeless is 100% not your problem.
This is just basic self-respect, honestly.
NTA Your kids come first and he’s not respecting that. Why are you even questioning this?
I’m sorry, he called an 8 year old a b****?! Yes YTA. He is not a safe person to have around your children, and while you’re writing this, he’s still in your house? Get tf off of Reddit and touch some grass mama.
Duhhh…. get rid of him 😮💨😮💨
Ok, that’s assault. Dump him
Read your own post, but imagine someone else wrote it and you’re giving your opinion on the situation. What would you advise her to do? Would you think that man is good for her children? Are there any warning signs about that man that you notice?
You already know he needs to go. There is no question about it.
He called your daughter a bitch, twice….
In no world should he be in your home for 10 more minutes and if you dont send his ass packing immediately then you are in for a world of regret.
Truthfully? I am livid with you for allowing him to call your daughter a bitch just once without ditching his ass forever. SHE IS EIGHT! She will remember this and she will remember you not standing up for her. Fix. This.
NTA. He’s dangerous to you and your kids. Please get him out of your house.
Kick this loser out of your house.
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KICK. HIM. OUT. He is abusing you and your daughter and he did it in front of your PARENTS. Why is this even a question? What more do you want him to do to you or your kid? Are you gonna wait for him to go full on treating her like a punching bag before you get rid of him? HE CONTRIBUTES NOTHING! If you let him stay, then you are just as much and abuser to your daughter as he is. Get rid of him, he’s no good!
YTA for subjecting your daughter to this abuse.
😳 run. NTA
EX BF RIGHT?
Get him out of your house, your daughter’s life and yours.
Get him out.
Right fucking now.
NTA
put this on r/justbreakupalready
I’m disgusted by what you allow around your children
As a mom, you need to leave. Your number one priority should be your children always and having a grown man you brought around them call your daughter a BITCH? Not okay. Set a standard for your children (your daughter especially) right now by leaving his ass. You may not have seen the signs leading to this but you see them now clear as day- time to go.
Nah girl this is SO beyond a rant. Dude straight up punched you because your 8 year old was being a literal child? Then called her a bitch? In front of your fam? Hell no. He can pack his stuff and go be unemployed and pissed off somewhere else. You’re not a halfway house for manbabies.
Omg he’s the asshole here, not you. You and your daughter are not safe around him
Omg dump him. He’s a spoiled entitled selfish brat and letting him get away with this shit will only enable and embolden him further. Kick him out.
His family wanted nothing to do with him and you admitted they didn’t raise him right. So you knew he was a bad boy going into a relationship with him.
NTA but I can’t imagine this being the first red flag when it comes to your daughter if you’ve been with him for at least 3 years. Leave him. He’s a sad excuse of a man
He hit you and called your daughter a bitch and you didn’t immediately dump him?? YTA to your daughter (and you) if you don’t
Please get rid of him.
I’m disgusted with myself, too. I know exactly what I have to do. This is absolutely unacceptable, and like I said, how he acted, before, during, and after grossed me to the point of no return. I will always choose my kids first. Ugh, I don’t know why in the world I even allowed him back in. I’ll take blame where blame is due. In 3 years, he’s never done this. I’ll never look at him the same, and I firmly believe that now that he broke that ice, that just opens the door for a lot more BS to come a lot easier. I can’t have my daughter thinking this is acceptable in any way. Noway. He’s out! Ty all for your comments. The good, the bad, and the downright ugly. I agree with all of them. Wtffffffffff, im still so shocked, though.
he called your daughter a bitch. Why is he still is the house. i will say it again.
HE CALLED YOUR 8yr OLD DAUGHTER A BITCH. WHY IS HE STILL IN YOUR HOUSE?!
He’s got issues with your kid that won’t get any better or be fixed. Bounce him out of your life before things get worse and he does something you can’t take back.
He is an abuser. Get him out. I would file a restraining order against him and have the police move him out when it is served.
Time to protect your daughter & dump him.
I had an ex that was jealous of my son- it didn’t end well.
Time for him to go. Call PD to help escort him out. You and your family deserve better. God bless you all.
Get rid of him, not your problem if he’s homeless, that’s his problem. Who the fudge calls a 8 year old a bitch?? That’s verbal abuse and it’ll only get worse. Good riddance
Girl, he hit you and called your 8 year old a bitch in public then sulked in your house for days? You’re not out of line at all for wanting him gone. Dude sounds like a walking red flag factory and you don’t owe him anything. Ngl you already know what you need to do.
He’s not your responsibility. Are you sure he isn’t a hobosexual (someone who manipulates and deceives a romantic partner to gain access to their home, finances, or other resources)?
Some people get into/stay in relationships solely because they depend on them for everything. At the very least he could contribute in whatever way he can, but instead is acting like an entitled spoiled brat.
I don’t blame you for falling out of love with him, I would have too.
He’s a loser. Kick him out. Don’t have your daughters memory be of mom having douche bag boyfriends and you not standing up for her. There are better men out there
YTA if you stay with anyone that calls your child a bitch. Not only did he disrespect you and your child but also your mother, who had to watch her daughter get stepped on like a doormat! Break that cycle! You and your babies deserve better. Leave him at the local homeless shelter
It’s of no concern to you where he lives, just kick him out of your house ffs. He’s abusive, has zero impulse control, called an EIGHT year old a bitch for play hitting him – punched you with full force to ‘show you’, yelled at you in public then forced you all to leave your day out – and now he’s giving YOU the silent treatment in YOUR house? A house he pays NOTHING to live in.
You’re a parent, you don’t play these stupid games. Get that deadshit out of your house and away from your kids. If i was your daughter, i’d be scared af to be around him.
This dude is a psycho wtf are you doing
There is something very wrong with him. Abuse is inevitable. He needs to go, ASAP. You cannot allow him around your children, ever again.
NTA Babe get his ass out of your house, silent treatment because you told him not to hit you again. If he gets to be pissed that an 8 year old playing around hit him, then you absolutely get to be pissed that he hit you in retaliation. And calling your small child a bitch? Fuck that manchild
Dump that dead weight. And he’s controlling and abusive? Time to kick him to the curb.
Now he’s a hobosexual.
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All normal for a relationship. End things before they get bitter.
First, thank you for choosing your kid over a man, second, you might have a chat with your daughter about boundaries and open conversations and communication when she is in her feelings. Feelings are okay, hurtful reactions aren’t always okay. Third, kick that man child out immediately. He not only threw a fit publicly over an 8 year old child and called her a bitch, but punched you. PUNCHED you! Can you imagine what he will do to the kids or has done if he is mad enough? What he could do to you? He sounds like a real prize(not).
YTA if you let this man stay, holy shit this is insanely unacceptable behavior, and he should be out on his ass for how he spoke about your daughter, let alone the rest of his aggressive temper tantrum.
Is there a bruise on your arm? Take a photo and press charges to get him out of your house.
What kind of ass gets jealous of an 8 year old?
NTA
You should dump this fucking asshole and if it wasn’t against the rules I’d have some other ideas too.