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That’s so funny. My ex’s gf does that to my adult children for Fathers Day. She wanted to know weeks before Mother’s Day. Then she worked or got a tude and only him and the kids went out. lol
I guess yours was trying to get in first huh?
For someone with many blended family issues it’s not absurd for us to have the holiday conversation right about now. My family has a lot of moving parts with custody concerns, married couples having to split between two families, at a state travel things like that. Maybe that’s why your mother-in-law is asking now.
I personally have my schedule planned out ~8 weeks in advance, so if you want to do something with me you need to check in early. I can see the value in planning for major holidays with family early as possible.
My MIL “means well” & thankfully doesn’t live very close, but a few years back apparently made plans with my H for Thanksgiving very close to it that ended up making it so that we didn’t see my family at all then. And because of where she lives & where she & her H have decided to spend their Decembers, it’s permanently disrupted my family holidays that have been in place for decades.
On the plus side, I no longer have to share Christmas with MIL. But yeah, I would appreciate planning major things like this in advance.
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My go-to is usually, “I don’t know what I’m doing tomorrow let alone Thanksgiving.”
Usually JustNo’s think it’s first come, first serve situation.
“Im not even thinking about holiday plans until at least (date)”
That’s so funny. My ex’s gf does that to my adult children for Fathers Day. She wanted to know weeks before Mother’s Day. Then she worked or got a tude and only him and the kids went out. lol
I guess yours was trying to get in first huh?
For someone with many blended family issues it’s not absurd for us to have the holiday conversation right about now. My family has a lot of moving parts with custody concerns, married couples having to split between two families, at a state travel things like that. Maybe that’s why your mother-in-law is asking now.
“I’m not planning that far ahead.”
“If you want an immediate answer, then the answer is no.”
I personally have my schedule planned out ~8 weeks in advance, so if you want to do something with me you need to check in early. I can see the value in planning for major holidays with family early as possible.
My MIL “means well” & thankfully doesn’t live very close, but a few years back apparently made plans with my H for Thanksgiving very close to it that ended up making it so that we didn’t see my family at all then. And because of where she lives & where she & her H have decided to spend their Decembers, it’s permanently disrupted my family holidays that have been in place for decades.
On the plus side, I no longer have to share Christmas with MIL. But yeah, I would appreciate planning major things like this in advance.