YOU RISK 100% OF THE CHANCES YOU DONT TAKE- TO MEN!!!!!!!!

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Title edit: You lose**

This is me grabbing you by the shoulders and shaking you profusely.

I’d say I’m pretty above average looking as a woman. I’m just speaking objectively here. As an objectively attractive woman, I NEED YOU TO UNDERSTAND THAT BEING A GENUINE GUY WITH A VERY GOOD PERSONALITY PUTS YOU VERY HIGH ON THE LIST OF ATTRACTIVE MEN.

PLEASE BE MORE CONFIDENT AND KNOWLEDGEABLE

Guys get it very very wrong sometimes. “Girls don’t care about nice men, I’m nice and they don’t care for me”

If you say that statement, chances are you are not the nice guy we are talking about.

A man who genuinely has something going for himself, a passion, drive, ability to bring things to fruition, is kind, a gentleman, etc. is a very real catch.

A thoughtful woman will choose a gentlemen over a hot guy any and every day.

Guys come on here all the time talking about how they have no chance, and I see this common characteristic among all of you okay. YOU WOULD BE SURPRISED TO KNOW THAT MANY BEAUTIFUL WOMAN WANT YOU.

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL TOO OKAY

Okay I’m done lol. This is such a throwaway post

Second edit: this only applies to adult and mature women. If you are a teen, idk..

Comments

  1. avid-learner-bot Avatar

    So… I’ve been married 19 years. Got two great kids, a boy and girl, and we’re all super happy in Seattle. Anyway, OP, I have to say, I love your advice. It’s spot on, confidence is way sexier than any six-pack. I mean, don’t get me wrong, I like looking at hot guys as much as the next chick… but a man who’s got his head on straight? Forget about it

    I think what you’re saying applies to women too though. We can all stand to work on our self-perception sometimes. When I’m feeling down about my body, which happens more often than I’d like, my husband always tells me how beautiful he thinks I am… and you know what? It works! So, OP, thanks for the reminder. And to all the singles out there, keep believing in yourself, guys and gals alike

  2. I_DontWanaBeOnCam Avatar

    Wb genuinely ugly men ,cuz I’m friends witha guy who you can only love when you get to know on the inside and he’s told me alot about how most people wount even sit with let alone flirt with him
    He’s funny guy but if you saw the way girls look at him and laugh you’d be disappointed in humanity
    I wount speak on his behalf but you probly get what I’m tryna say

  3. StrawberryGusher Avatar

    I second this. My boyfriend is (by societal standards) probably considered average, but I find him hot as hell, and a huge part of that is just that he’s genuine in all the ways listed here.

  4. flagboi747 Avatar

    Can confirm as that guy who was chosen by that girl. Personality works, my friends. Don’t be someone you ain’t. And be the type of person you wanna be dating.

  5. jakeknight81 Avatar

    You’re absolutely right, though for me as a very isolated person that rarely lets anyone in, I think it’s a tension of opposites situation in my case. The fear of being alone versus the fear of socializing kind of are at odds sometimes. It maybe a bit hyperbolic of me to use fear but you get the point. I don’t think I’d supplement someone very well as I am anyways so mayhaps a self confidence thing as well. The only things I’m really confident are in my dependability when working to be honest.

  6. vinobon Avatar

    So true!! Learned the hard way

  7. nobodyamazin Avatar

    I explained to her how to speedrun mario sunshine while collecting all the blue coins, yet she didn’t want a second date for some reason

  8. Honest_Bit_6770 Avatar

    I agree. Once had a 6’3 10/10 looking boyfriend with a 1/10 personality – entitled, self-centered, inconsiderate.

    This guy I’m seeing right now is barely my height, somewhat conventionally attractive (he kinda looks like younger Elon Musk lol), but his emotional intelligence and conversational chemistry is so strong I can’t wait to see him for our next date before our current one even ended.

  9. hellcat_kate Avatar

    Thank you for spreading the word!!!

    I know social media is filled with women saying women don’t like getting approached, but they mostly mean rude guys who refuse to take no for an answer. Yes, there are women who don’t ever wanna be approached, but there are LOTs of women who are okay with being approached.

  10. Vox289 Avatar

    Would it be out of line to ask for a rough age? Not to hit on you, but because that attitude seems to appear in the mid 30’s. As a nice guy who’s now married to a younger and (much) taller woman, my experience has been that the decade or more of being shot down and laughed at between the ages of say 17 and 30 makes shorter or more average guys gunshy for a reason. A dog that’s been kicked over and over expects to be kicked again, even when meeting a pet lover. However thank you for the encouragement. If it helps even one guy out there it has been more helpful than a lot of Reddit posts

  11. B_312_ Avatar

    I think as a guy you have to be okay with rejection in the sense of not being discouraged. Easier said than done for some.