Your Negative Thoughts Are Actually Trying to Help You

Whether we realize it or not, we have a relationship with our minds.

Just like relationships with other people, if you put in the effort to CHANGE the relationship, you can change the way you EXPERIENCE it. It gets better.

The same thing goes with your thoughts.

Change the relationship you have with your thoughts and you will improve the way you experience them.

So how do you improve your relationships?

You need to UNDERSTAND the other person. Same thing with your thoughts.

You need to understand them.

Here’s the golden understanding: You need to recognize that every single one of your negative thoughts are actually trying to help you in some way.

This is called a positive intention.

It means your thoughts intentions are good, they’re just really misguided.

They’re actually just trying to help us survive in some way.

It’s a survival mechanism.

When you can’t stop ruminating about the past, it’s really because your mind wants you to learn from it so you don’t feel the pain of the past again.

When you can’t stop thinking about the future, it really just wants you to be prepared so you don’t have to feel pain in the future.

When you can’t stop criticizing yourself, it’s because it doesn’t want you to experience the pain of being criticized by others anymore – so it continually warns you.

Knowing this truth can help you soften and change the relationship with your mind.

I hope you can see how your negative thoughts are trying to help you.

And I hope you found this helpful.

PS – Want to put this into practice?

When you notice negative thoughts, just ask yourself “How are these thoughts trying to help me in some way?”

This will help you build awareness into the positive intention of all of your negative thoughts. Journaling about this is super helpful too.