This Husband Almost Got His Wife’s Life Saving Medication Confiscated on a Cruise Because He Refuses to Learn About Her Diabetes

When you stand at the altar and promise to love someone in sickness and in health, the absolute bare minimum expectation is that you will not actively contribute to their sickness. You are supposed to be your partner’s ultimate teammate. But one twenty three year old woman on Reddit recently discovered that her twenty nine year old husband is dangerously clueless about her lifelong medical condition, and his weaponized incompetence is literally putting her in the hospital.

The Original Poster is a woman who was diagnosed with type one diabetes when she was just eleven years old. Having lived with the condition for over a decade, she is a total pro at managing it. She keeps her blood sugar in check with insulin and almost never experiences any serious medical issues. To her, it is just a normal part of her daily routine.

The trouble started when she and her husband finally moved in together after getting married. Because they had never shared a living space before tying the knot, her husband was suddenly getting a front row seat to what living with diabetes actually entails. Instead of being supportive and learning about his wife’s daily needs, he decided to become incredibly annoyed by her basic survival habits.

The husband started rolling his eyes whenever the OP made sure she had a snack packed for long outings. He would get actively irritated when she double checked her orders for sugar free drinks. During one restaurant visit, a waitress accidentally brought the OP a regular Coke instead of a Diet Coke. The OP politely asked for the correct drink so she would not literally spike her blood sugar, and her husband acted like she was a massive diva making an impossible demand.

His constant eye rolling and dramatic sighs eventually wore her down in the absolute worst way possible. The OP did not share the exact details, but she revealed that her husband’s behavior directly led to her developing diabetic ketoacidosis. DKA is a life threatening complication of diabetes. She was admitted to the hospital and had to stay there for weeks just to stabilize her health.

Even while his wife was sitting in a hospital bed recovering from a major medical crisis he caused, the husband remained completely clueless. When the OP was finally discharged, the nurses tried to hand her educational pamphlets about diabetes. When she explained she had been diabetic since she was a child, the medical staff was visibly confused as to how she suddenly ended up in such critical condition. The OP chillingly noted that her husband is exactly how it happened.

If putting his wife in the hospital was not bad enough, the husband’s behavior somehow gets even more toxic. When the OP experiences low blood sugar and gets lightheaded, he accuses her of being dramatic. He even sank to the absolute lowest level imaginable and accused her of faking her low blood sugar just to get out of physical intimacy with him. When she looked horrified by the accusation, he quickly backpedaled and claimed it was just a joke. It was definitely not a joke.

The absolute final straw happened while the couple was boarding a cruise ship. Security asked the standard question about whether they had any medication in their bags. The husband looked the security guard dead in the eye and plainly said no. He completely ignored the fact that his wife carries vials of life saving insulin with her everywhere she goes. Because of his reckless ignorance, the cruise staff almost confiscated her medication.

Now the OP is genuinely terrified for her own safety, and she has every right to be. She is asking the internet if she would be the ahole for issuing a strict ultimatum and forcing her husband to take educational classes about her illness.

Let us make this perfectly clear. She is not the ahole, but an educational class is not going to fix this marriage. This is not a man who is simply struggling to learn medical terminology. This is a grown man who actively resents his wife’s chronic illness and refuses to protect her. You cannot teach a class on basic empathy. She needs to pack her bags, grab her insulin, and leave him at the dock. What would you do if your partner refused to learn about your medical needs? Let us know in the comments!